As we approach graduations and the end of school hoopla, it’s a great time to pull together your child’s memories of their school years. The problem is, many of these papers, pieces of artwork and awards and ribbons are all over the house in bins, files and maybe hanging on refrigerators and bulletin boards. Here are a few steps to pulling together and savoring all your child has done and accomplished this school year:
- You have to be reasonable about what you keep. It’s often said that the key to organizing is making decisions. I completely agree with this statement and have seen it with many of my clients. The people with the most clutter and the most “old stuff,” can’t seem to make a decision and let go of the past. When it comes to savoring your child’s life with little pictures, and tokens of their stages of growth, it’s best to do it on a year by year basis. Think of it as finding the “best of” that year. Chose the best, toss the rest and move on! There’s so much more ahead.
- Only save the happy memories. Believe it or not, there are people who save mementos of unhappy occasions. I have seen people save bloody blankets from when their dog was hit by a car, newspaper clippings of national tragedies and obituaries, and pieces of casts from a broken arm! And I have to think, “Why?” Why would you want to be reminded of something sad, tragic or unhappy? I guess it’s a matter of opinion and preference but I would like to think that if you are saving things for your child, you would want only the happy memories to be preserved. So when considering what to keep for your child, ask yourself and your child, “Does this bring a smile to your face?”
- Gather it all together. If you’ve already accumulated a bunch of memorabilia for your child or children, to get it under control and organized you’ll have to gather it all in to one room. If you have more than one child, do this for one child at a time. It’s a great excuse to have some one-on-one time together!
- Finding time. Make sure you have allotted a few hours for this process because you may get lost in your reminiscing and that’s okay! If you don’t think you’ll get through it all, make sure you have an area where you can leave the stuff until you do finish your project.
- Use my Categorize, Purge and Re-Arrange (C.P.R.) process. Your categories might be: photos, artwork, baby blankets & clothes, baby photo albums or scrapbooks, trophies & awards, religious articles, schoolwork and stuffed animals, just to name a few. Of course your personal categories will depend on the age of your child and how much you have saved thus far. As you categorize, ask your child “Do you want to save this?” If the child says “No” you’ve got to honor that. You can also decide if something is necessary to save just by your child’s reaction. If there are lots of “oohs” and “aahs,” and “I remember this!” You probably want to keep it. If you get, “what is that?” it’s probably a toss.
- Create a Memory Box. Once you have looked at everything and made your decisions, create a memory box for each child. I recommend a trunk that can be left out in their bedroom. This way they can add to it easily. Or a plastic tub in their closet works well too. If you collect lots of papers (awards, artwork, cards) consider putting them in a scrapbook. Summer break is a great time to review, reminisce and refresh your memory box. You can also take some time to put together a scrapbook of all you’ve collected over the year. The first time you do this, it’s a big project but if you continue each year, it becomes a seasonal clean out.