I’m done with resolutions. Resolutions can be broken. Broken resolutions make us feel guilty. I was done with guilt a long time ago. I’m sure many of you may feel the same way. So what do we do to kick of the year? I feel like I have to plan something for 2017 even though big events are going to happen whether I like it or not. My one son is going off to college in the fall. The other one will be starting high school. I’m thinking about a career transition. So I know that we will all be going in new positive directions. But as an organized take-charge person I want to cause these good things to happen. I’m not the type to sit back and wait. (Remember waiting was what I did in December). So if you’re with me in wanting to look forward to this year, but you’re also done with the typical resolutions let’s try a new approach.
- Consider what do you want MORE or LESS of in your life this year? I want more time with old friends so I’ve already started some initiatives to do this. I’m making plans to renew my play subscription at a local theatre for this year. That means I will see two of my closest friends at least 5 times for dinner and a show. I’m also making vacation plans to see my college friends, to take a trip with my daughter and to spend time with my family. These highlights will give me something to look forward to almost every month! I also want fewer emails that I have to read, and act on, so I’m stepping down from volunteer commitments that cause me to receive so many. This will free up time for productive work and personal endeavors.
- What’s been on your TO DO list for a long time? Can you make that happen this year? What will it take? For example, I want to update my bathroom. I secured estimates a few years ago but then the money wasn’t available so the project stalled. Since then, we’ve taken care of several other home improvements that were less expensive so I feel like we can do it this year. I’ll go back to the contractors, get new estimates and when I have a clear cost, I will start socking away the money until we can pay for the whole project. Then I will schedule it in a month when it makes sense, maybe in the fall when 2/3 kids will be away at school. For major home improvements you really need to think through the project: resources, cost, schedule. Then start making calls!
- Who can help you with making your dreams a reality? If you want to get organized but haven’t been able to do it on your own, hire a professional. Likewise, if you’ve been thinking about a career transition and haven’t made much progress, hire a business coach like I did! I’ve been working with her for a few months and she knows the process so all I have to do is follow her steps and do my homework. That takes a big burden off my shoulders. Maybe you’re tired of cleaning your own house – hiring a cleaning person is a treat that many hard working women deserve. Just do it and save the money somewhere else in your budget. Most of us can’t reach our dreams without a little help.
- What’s something you can do every week to make you happy? Is it mediation, an exercise class or a group that you can join to pursue a passion? Maybe you’ve done it once and just need to continue. Maybe you need time to think about what it is that makes YOU happy. Or maybe you need to do a little research on your options. For instance, I got back into yoga over the holidays when my daughter was home. I remembered that I loved it and I wasn’t doing it enough. So I’m going to continue every week doing yoga for my health and sanity.
- Put it all down in your calendar. Once you have some plans, or ideas for the New Year, write them down on a one sheet Year-At-A –Glance calendar. That way you can see on your big ideas, events and goals for each month. Move things around as necessary. Look forward to the social plans, get excited about your home projects and fill in the blanks where there’s nothing good going on.
I hope you have a happy and fulfilling 2017!