Absolute #4 – If you don’t plan it, it’s not going to happen



Wow, how many times have you said, “we’ll get to that someday” or “we should get together and do lunch (dinner or coffee)?” The reality of today’s fast-paced, over-scheduled society is that if you don’t intentionally put something on your calendar and plan a date to do something, it’s most likely not going to happen.  And this applies to friendly get-togethers, big projects and even little tasks. Here’s five examples of how you can make it happen and bring some balance and satisfaction to your day, your week, your month and year!

  1. Have a standing date with your best friends or family. I have heard families say to me that every Sunday is dinner at mom’s. Whoever can make it does and mom always makes spaghetti and meatballs and the rest of us bring side dishes. How nice to know that if you want to see your parents or catch up with siblings, you know where they will be every Sunday. Likewise I have for years gotten subscription tickets to a local theatre so five times a year (every other month from Sept. to May) I have a date with my close friends. We go to dinner, catch the show and catch up with each other’s lives.
  2. Plan your year – When it comes to big goals, it’s a good idea to start the year off with some big plans. Whether that is a nice vacation with your spouse or family or it’s a big idea for your job or business. Set a few achievable goals that you can work on through the year. Too many will set you up for failure so stick to a max of three for each area of your life. If you reach those early – by all means, set some more! One year I decided I was going to write a book. I got started in January, did some research on publishers, read some “how to” books and although some of this was luck, I had a publishing contract by May! Imagine what you could do if you set your mind to it.
  3. Plan your month – I always start a month off by looking at what I’d like to do on a personal level and a professional one. I write those goals or projects down in my daily planner. Then when I plan my daily/weekly tasks I make sure they support the larger project. Or if I have an unexpected day or half day to myself and I just don’t know what to work on, I check the list. Anything not accomplished gets carried over to the next month. But it’s still in the plan!
  4. Little projects around the house – Putting work and professional goals aside for a moment, think about what you need and want to get done around the house. Month by month you can plan home improvements. For example, Spring & Fall are good times to clean out places like the garage or basement or closets. You may have to look at the weather but pick a Saturday to do the garage as a family and it will go quickly and may even be fun. Winter months are great times to do inside painting or renovations. Tax time is a great time to clean out the file cabinet and end of school is a great time to clean out kids paperwork. Put it in your planner or on the family calendar.
  5. Who or what have you been neglecting? Think about whom you haven’t spent one on one time with and make a date. If you’d like to continue, make that a weekly or monthly date. How about exercise? I’m sure a lot of us have that gym membership that is going to waste. The only way to get regular is to plan it. Look at your typical week and see where a little extra time can be found. Maybe it’s early in the morning before you have to shower and get off to work. Or maybe there’s some dead time in the evening (7-9 pm) where you could exercise instead of watching TV.  Try it for a few weeks and see if it doesn’t become a habit.

In the interest of work/life balance it’s a good idea to plan something that you enjoy doing every day, every week and every month.

“For in the dew of little things, the heart finds it’s morning and is refreshed.”

-Kahlil Gibran